Cybersex addiction

Regardless of your cultural and religious background and level of liberty in your personal life,

Compulsive use of Internet pornography, sexting, nude-swapping via snapchat, can┬ánegatively impact person’s real-life inimate relationships and overall emotional health

In cases of online sex addiction, the addict’s apetite for it creates significant problems such as social isolation, family troubles, relationship difficulties, divorce, financial dept, poor work performance, job loss and even legal trouble. The compulsion can even transfer to sexually compulsive behaviour offline, as the user may begin to visit strip clubs or become sexually promiscuous

Porn addicts tend to replace important relationships and commitments with their ‘drug’ of choice: pornography and fantasy. They look for novelty and go hunting for hours for perfect model, video, setting etc. They get sense of euphoria, that goes far beyond to the one reported by most people.

The sesual experience is not about intimacy. Addicts use sexual activity to seek pleasure, avoid unpleasant feelings or respond to outside stressors, such as work difficulties or outside problems.

Very often porn itself is NOT the problem. The problem are the underlying issues that the person must first deal with through therapy, counselling and possibly rehab in order to start to manage his addiction to porn.

Compulsions related to online sex often include behaviours such as:

  • having trouble managing time at the computer
  • feeling preoccupied with using internet to find sexual gratification
  • neglecting daily responsibilities, proper rest, or a healthy diet just to have online sex
  • using cybersex to cope with stress, depression, loneliness
  • hiding online interactions from others
  • feeling guilty and shameful because of online sex acts
  • compulsively masturbating when online

Some signs of porn addiction can include:

  • inability to stop behaviour and porn use despite previous attempts to do so
  • anger or irritability when asked to stop
  • hiding or attempting to keep secret all or a part of the porn use
  • living a double or secret life related to porn
  • continuing the behaviour despite obvious consequences, such as relationship or job loss
  • spending more time than intended

The typical symptoms of excessive porn use would be:

  • copulatory impotence
  • growing erectile dysfunction, even with an extreme porn
  • severe, worsening social anxiety
  • fatigue, irritability
  • lack of motivation, depression, anxiety
  • inability to concentrate, brain fog
  • morphing porn tastes that don’t match sexual orientation
  • frequent masturbation, little satisfaction

Porn addiction is a problem just like other kinds of addiction. US based research found the sex addicts often come from dysfunctional families and are more likely than non-sex addicts to have been abused. 80% of recovering sex addicts report some type of addiction in their families of origin.

If you feel you might be affected by your own or partner’s sexual addiction, contact me for a consultation and therapy!